How do you learn to deal with setbacks better? I feel so incompetent at it, and I feel like I dwell on setbacks too much.
I got rejected to some colleges as a transfer student. I called to ask why, and most of them said that they wanted me to fulfill some course requirements. But I feel like I'm making an excuse when I say this. One school just told me it was competitive this year, so I probably wouldn't have gotten in if I tried again. Anyway, I'll be staying an extra year at my 2-year college to take those courses and reapply to some of them since they're only open in the fall. And honestly, I feel like a loser amongst my friends since they will be transferring to really good colleges, and I can't help but think that people are looking down on me. I'm not a horrible student; I have a 4.0 throughout my 2 years there, and I have my AA transfer degree. It's just that everyone I know who started the same year as me is transferring, regardless of their academic history. I did get into some colleges, but I only applied b/c they gave me a fee waiver. I wish I would have applied to more colleges, though.
This aside, how do you learn how to deal when you put all of your energy, time, and heart into something but don't end up achieving it? I feel like this is affecting my health, too; my head and heart hurts from thinking about it so much.
Thank you for reading. I feel annoying talking about it in real life, so I appreciate it.