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May. 27th, 2009 @ 07:49 pm (no subject)
How do you learn to deal with setbacks better? I feel so incompetent at it, and I feel like I dwell on setbacks too much.

I got rejected to some colleges as a transfer student. I called to ask why, and most of them said that they wanted me to fulfill some course requirements. But I feel like I'm making an excuse when I say this. One school just told me it was competitive this year, so I probably wouldn't have gotten in if I tried again. Anyway, I'll be staying an extra year at my 2-year college to take those courses and reapply to some of them since they're only open in the fall. And honestly, I feel like a loser amongst my friends since they will be transferring to really good colleges, and I can't help but think that people are looking down on me. I'm not a horrible student; I have a 4.0 throughout my 2 years there, and I have my AA transfer degree. It's just that everyone I know who started the same year as me is transferring, regardless of their academic history. I did get into some colleges, but I only applied b/c they gave me a fee waiver. I wish I would have applied to more colleges, though.

This aside, how do you learn how to deal when you put all of your energy, time, and heart into something but don't end up achieving it? I feel like this is affecting my health, too; my head and heart hurts from thinking about it so much.

Thank you for reading. I feel annoying talking about it in real life, so I appreciate it.

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From:burgundycolumns
Date:May 28th, 2009 11:10 am (UTC)
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be confident in your abilities and your academic history! and you will get in somewhere for sure...esp if you already have and the fact that u passed on them shows that perhaps you are looking into more competitive schools.
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From:heart_over_head
Date:June 2nd, 2009 06:59 am (UTC)
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Thanks, burgundycolumns. I appreciate it. =)
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From:polymathic
Date:May 28th, 2009 03:08 pm (UTC)
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Don't stress it. This is the most competitive college admissions year in awhile, due to the economy. Selective colleges often require more (or rigorous) coursework, so you certainly shouldn't feel that your situation is unusual.
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From:heart_over_head
Date:June 2nd, 2009 06:58 am (UTC)
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Thanks for your support. You a math major (just going by your user name)?
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From:abright1dea
Date:February 23rd, 2010 01:24 am (UTC)
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Wow, I could have written this... minus the 4.0!

In my next personal statement I am going to write about how at first I thought of my rejection as a setback, but then saw it was a blessing because it gave me a reason to not be in school full time, I could work and then also picked up some new hobbies. (started learning guitar and took a photography class, things I'd always wanted to do but just couldn't find the time for them with school and work), which will hopefully demonstrate that I didn't use this time to just hang out and do the bare minimum.

I know how you feel. But I don't know. I'm embarrassed and frustrated as well. When I first found out I was rejected from my first, and really only choice of school, I slept 18 hours each day for three days straight. I still let my anxiety get the better of me from time to time when I think, what if I do everything they say and STILL get rejected AGAIN.

I've been on this community for about 45 minutes and have received so much confirmation that I am not alone. So just know, you're certainly not alone, you're not a loser, and although it's amplified because it's happening right now, in the grand scheme of your life- this is really not that big of a deal at all. My advise would be to seize this extra time you have by doing something that will really make you stand out- start a club, start a nonprofit (I know that's ambitious but it'd be impressive) or something like that. I don't know. Good luck.